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I assume I passed? I felt like I was placed in the role of Convention Booth Babe, receiving both the objectified interest from the men and the scorn of the women. I do need to point out here, that none of this came from people involved with the con.
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Either would be acceptable: The ones who dress alike foe spend their lives being sheep to the newest styles. We celebrate our community for being thoughtful and intelligent and welcoming of weirdness.
But we do the exact same policing to our own that we see in mainstream society. Women who, at one end of the spectrum, put too much effort into their looks, whether in costume or not, are ostracized.
This is not a problem unique to nerds, of course. It is just an extension of the same in-group presentation policing that every aspect of society does.
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Balticon is trying to do that, and I give them gak for that. I really enjoy going to this con and I plan to go back next year.
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And yes, I get tired of fighting it. If other women are feeling the same way I do, they might be turned off from that con entirely. Or participate in geek culture at all.
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Point out that I can both wear a short skirt and have a brain under my beehive. I have a privileged position, in that I can do this and then safely retreat to my friends and colleagues.
I am not walking into a convention alone and for the first time. And if anyone wants to fight me about it? You can find me in the bar. Good luck with that. We saw you at Balticon high five! I have no idea who these nay-saying jerks are, but I think I represent the silent majority in saying you brought a nice bit of flare to the con.
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I think I was 14, when I saw one of my first detailed cosplay outfits — a boy not much older dressed as a member of Red Squadron.
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I have found problems across the board and it is invariably those who have been around forever that make me feel the most uncomfortable and unwelcome. I got the nerd-grilling-and-gatekeeping treatment at my first Trek con in It was only mildly annoying at that first extremely small con, but it was certainly in-my-face at Philcon and Creation cons in the early 90s. The sad part is that when I saw my first cosplayers inI remember being uncomfortable and judgmental about some revealing and completely canon Klingon costumes.
I had thoroughly absorbed misogyny and slut shaming culture, and was too full of assumptions based on the arbitrary conventions of my own insular group, to realize that I was part of the problem. So please, speak up, as you might catch at least a few people like younger! People have no right. Wear whatever you like, and Seeking geeky gamer gal for friendship it.
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